Tina, I am so sorry you have had to deal with such gross insensitivity. Why people try to reason or rationalise our losses has never made any sense to me. She had no right to compare your loss to anyone else's. For 9 weeks you made plans and loved your baby and that is all that matters. I believe a baby is a baby no matter what form or age they make it to, so please know that not everyone feels the same way as your 'friend'. Next time, just put people like that in their place!