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As has been said by many, it is a tough time for many of us and we just cope in the best way we know how. My suggestion is to be kind to yourself and make sure that DD has a wonderful day as it really is all about her. Spend some quality time with yourself. If you do end up going to see the 'family' then don't be where everyone is, go outside, go for a walk, but most of all focus on you.
take care and I hope you and everyone else gets through this tough time of year.
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I know exactly how you are feeling, i had m/c in late november after 10 years of TTC, and the traumatic death of a very close family friend in september and i feel christmas is just too close. we've had a few parties, some i felt i had to attend, one i attended and only a few people knew about m/c and were watching out for me, i left the decision to attend to the last minute. another one, dh declined the invitation it was only two weeks after our loss. for christmas day, dh's family always has breakfast, we take turns and this year just happens to be our turn, would love to cancel buy dh insists we go ahead, i guess this is important to him so will do. for lunch i usually feed my parents and the in-laws and any extra's floating around, this year i have refused, i just need time. my mother (77yo and dad 80yo) keeps saying, it could be our last christmas, i keep telling her to go to my sisters (i'm one of six) it shouldn't be just up to me. i'm not taking on anything else, i need time to recover.
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First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Don't try to make yourself feel any sort of way right now. You're at where you're at. It's okay not to feel the holiday spirit. It can be especially hard if people don't know about your loss, but you have aright to your own business.
Sending a cyber hug.
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