I saw a therapist it didnt really help but i do have some good news. We ARE having a baby in like 1 and a half years time. The reason he kept saying no is because he wanted me to tell him it would be fine o.O well why didnt he say that before it would have saved a bunch of arguments. Yeah when i still bring up the twins he has one of two reactions "im sorry sweetie" or "why are we talking about this" and sometimes he has the odd cry. So i think hes getting there to understanding how i feel.