it helps a lot to know that there are other people going through the same thing i am. the only person i know that has lost a baby is the woman i work with and i cant even stand looking at her let alone talk to her. at work when we sit in the break room everyone avoids talking about her being pregnant. at times ill walk into a room and it will go silent and i know why they arent talking anymore and it makes me so mad but then at other times i walk into the room and other co workers are rubbing her belly and dont stop when they see me and that too makes me so mad. i cant go to my friends house because i cant look at her 1 year old without getting upset. i never wanted to get pregnant but now that im not thats all i think about which i know is the wrong way to deal but i cant help it. its been 3 months and im still down and depressed.




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i am so sorry to hear what you are going through honey i feally feel for you i no its hard but try to stop blaming yourself you have done nothing wrong so you made a mistake everyone does in there lifetime i fell pregnant at 18 and had him at 19 and i wasnt married we all make mistakes but try not to punnish yourself for it it makes us who we are we are only human. i totaly understand how your feeling grieving for your baby is a long process and everyone is different and from the moment you are pregnant you have that special bond with your baby it grew inside you for all those weeks and you shared that together so dont let anyone tell you any different you have all these hopes and dreams and then suddenly its all taken away i lost my little girl at 23 wks and have just had a m/c 3 wks ago i was ment to be 10 wks but babys heart stopped at 7 and a half and some days i am fine and others i am a total wreck my sister is pregnant and our due dates were only 2 days apart and i am so happy that her pregnancy is going well but its so hard to hear her talk about it knowing that should be me and the feeling of guilt can be so overwhelming and the whys and what if's it is so hard and this site is good to say how you feel i have started trying again as all i want is a healthy baby but give yourself time to grieve and 3 months is not a long time at all just let of steam cry screem do whatever feels right for you take care honey always hear to talk and please be easy on yourself.
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