its been 3 months and i still cry

[munchy]

Kell honey sending you big i am so sorry to hear what you are going through honey i feally feel for you i no its hard but try to stop blaming yourself you have done nothing wrong so you made a mistake everyone does in there lifetime i fell pregnant at 18 and had him at 19 and i wasnt married we all make mistakes but try not to punnish yourself for it it makes us who we are we are only human. i totaly understand how your feeling grieving for your baby is a long process and everyone is different and from the moment you are pregnant you have that special bond with your baby it grew inside you for all those weeks and you shared that together so dont let anyone tell you any different you have all these hopes and dreams and then suddenly its all taken away i lost my little girl at 23 wks and have just had a m/c 3 wks ago i was ment to be 10 wks but babys heart stopped at 7 and a half and some days i am fine and others i am a total wreck my sister is pregnant and our due dates were only 2 days apart and i am so happy that her pregnancy is going well but its so hard to hear her talk about it knowing that should be me and the feeling of guilt can be so overwhelming and the whys and what if's it is so hard and this site is good to say how you feel i have started trying again as all i want is a healthy baby but give yourself time to grieve and 3 months is not a long time at all just let of steam cry screem do whatever feels right for you take care honey always hear to talk and please be easy on yourself.

munchy xxx

[kelli07]

thank you so much for taking the time to talk to me. its been really hard to sit and think about the miscarriage all the time and never talk about it to anyone. talking to all the women on here is the first time ive actually talked about the way im feeling about all of this. as i said in a previous post, im not married. my boyfriend and i have lived together for about 9 months now and weve been together for almost 2 years. somedays he tells me he wants to try again right now and he really wants a baby and somedays he says never again, then on all the other days he says we should wait and get me through college first. its the source of a lot of fights because on the days he wants to try again right now i want to wait and the days he wants to wait i want to try right now. hes really the only person i even talk about the miscarriage with and he doesnt like to very much because hes a typical man and doesnt want to talk about emotions...

[mollycat]

Kelli - anytime you want to hop onto this site and talk to us. Your boyfriend is also grieving but may not understand the feelings you have. My DH has entirely different thoughts, but really misses our baby just as much as i do. His first thought was no more - i can't go through this again, but within a few weeks changed his mind to - if we fall pg again, so be it (hoping that we won't m/c again) and often it doesn't. All you can do is keep the communication paths open when he is ready i'm sure he will talk about it.

[Kitt3n]

and dont ever feel bad for crying! its been over a year since my first mc and i still cry

hugs hun