I am so sorry for the awful thing(s) you had to go through. I'll keep you in my prayers and send a cyber hug.

The idea that diabetic women shouldn't get pregnant is the silliest thing I ever heard of and I'm a nurse with a couple of diabetic friends (one quite brittle) who had lovely, healthy babies. In fact, a study was done some years ago that compared outcomes of diabetics with the general population and the diabetic women did better because they took such good care of themselves!

Miscarriage has many causes and for your doctor to harp on one part of your medical history was completely uncalled for.

Sending another cyberhug. Be real good to yourself right now.

BTW, your friends probably just don't get what it's like to lose a preg. If you need to vent, come here.