I am so sorry to read about the loss of your baby boy Freddy. It is a loss that is unimaginable and the loss is lifechanging. I think it is wonderful that you and your partner can already see the love that Freddy brought to your lives and that this is helping you both support each other.

It is completely understandable that you feel the need to start trying for another child. It does not matter what other people say, only you will know when you are ready to start trying again. It will be a year in Dec since we lost our boy Nathaniel at 20 weeks, and I knew straight away that I wanted more than anything to have another baby. Nathaniel has also brought my DH and I closer together and we both feel that our love for each has deepened over this past year. I am now only days away from Baby No. 2 coming into our lives, and I can not tell you how very precious and blesssed we feel. Nathaniel is and always will be a big part of our lives, I often ask him to look after the baby I am carrying and to help me when I get scared.

You need to be strong for you, and others need to be there for you as well. Please take the time to grieve and allow yourself time before you have to return to work etc. It is a very lonely grief at times, and it is important that you allow yourself the time to work through the pain you are experiencing.

I hope you and your partner continue to support each other over the coming months. Please join the women in the TTC after Late Loss thread. They have been so important to be these past 12 months. Take care