I'm so sorry Katie. A GF had a D&C at 19 weeks under general anaesthetic but she was allowed to keep her little man with her for quite a few hours when she woke, and after the normal testing procedures they need to do, she was given back his body for burial. Another friend in the same position could not so I think a lot of it has to do with the particular hospital. Speak to your OB and stress how important it is to him that you and your DH are given your angel.