i hope all goes well for you and i wanted to say how sorry i am that you are going through this esp as something quite similar has just happened to me and I can directly relate.
As more questions about the d+c and how your baby will be after this procedure. Although I had the same choices but chose to give birth, i had amazing midwives who said they were not going to show me my baby until they had seen themselves and therefore explained the body state to me to prepare me for it. My baby died a little earlier and had become floppy but was still ok for me to view. (i'm sorry if this will become distressing for you) Regardless, my baby is my baby and although it is still early (few days ago i gave birth)and it devastates me to see the pictures, my baby was beautiful because of that fact...
please ask all the painful questions with the more painful answers to come. You need to know what you are about to face although nothing will prepare you.Lean on the midwives they have been my angels also and i hope you are lucky to have some as compassionate and amazing as mine.
I will be thinking of you...please take care!
jo