Hi Lindy
Men DEFINATELY do this different from us!!! My DH was exactly the same all he talked about was work and he wouldnt tell anyone about my ectopic and he was almost annoyed that i had told family (not like you cant?!!) Any way a week ago he had a bit too much to drink and i was a little upset and he spilled everything, telling me he knew it was a girl and he was thinking ahead to weddings etc. and the most painful part for him was knowing he couldnt do anything and i was the one going through the trauma of surgery and it made me realise it was just as hard for him only for some reason they keep it all inside, i think if anything women are blessed in the way that we do share things and it helps us heal, they just seem to bottle it up. i really hope one day soon your DH does this for you Lindy i think the thing they need to realise that by having that reaction it makes it harder for us, we just need to know that they care, nothing more or less.
Take care Lindy. Big hugs