Oh sweetheart, no words can express what I am feeling for you right now. I am so deeply sorry that you have had to go through this. Just know that I am here holding your hand and helping you through your darkest of hours. Eventually the pain will seem not to be so strong, it will never go away, but it will become bearable. Along with your DH and DD you will smile again.
Take care of yourself and PM if you need to talk - anytime.
i dont know really where to post this so i will just keep it in here.
we would of been 11 wks today going by measurement of bubba g, but going by my last period i would of been 12wks. i cant stop thinking about it.
dp's mother rang last night and dp asked why didnt they call or come for a visit to show some support, given that this is his first child and all. she told him that " it was just a miscarriage, wasnt like it was born or anything" WTF i cant believe she said that, it was clear that dp just wanted to here that they were sorry and all of that but instead she tells him that!!!!!!! stupid b*tch dp is so upset and cant believe it. i told him i want nothing to do with them ever again. You can take the p*ss out of me about anything but when you say things about my baby then thats it, this is one subject that i will not allow to be picked at and i wont forgive. i am a pretty easy going person not alot will get to me, but when it comes to my babies and ttc its one subject you just dont dare to make nasty comments about.
i still havent left the house since all of this happend, 14 days today and i am still to scared to leave the house. i can talk to people on the phone and get on the computer and everything is fine, but i dont want to leave my home just yet, i dont want to let people see me cry and i know right now if i went back to work or seen anyone at the shops and they asked me how i was going i would break down in tears. i am so angry at myself i dont want to cry anymore, i want to get back to work and be able to go down and get a loaf of bread instead of getting dp or my mum to do it for me. i can feel that each day i am getting better, but i just cant go down town yet. i feel like i am being silly but i really cant help it.
I just wanted to say your MIL should be ashamed of herself! I truly hope your DP told her exactly how out of line she was.... or hopefully he will at a later stage! Her comment is and was not acceptable!
Secondly, i like someone else here, wont go on to say the normal things... i just want to hold you... comfort you and let you cry and vent unitl you cant cry an vent any more!
Be so very kind to yourself, take each step at a time....
much love and light vibes your way...
(((((((((((((((((((((((((( for you, only you ))))))))))))))))))))))))
Thanks heaps MissyMooMoo for such a sweet and caring reply
i was a little worried that maybe i might of been over reacting to this and being alittle to sensitive about it but i am happy that you see it my way as well. it really broke my heart last night when she said that and i could see it broke dp heart as well. havent we been through enough? and now we have to deal with people and comments like that??
dp said that if she rings again he is going to be telling her exactly what he thinks and how wrong it was. dp has been through so much in the last few weeks and he has truely been my rock and i feel so sorry for him that his family hasnt been very supportive about this at all. it was my mum that gave him comfort when i was in surgery and he broke down knowing what they were doing to me. Its been my mum that has come and cleaned the house so he didnt have to do it. his family couldnt even ring just to see how he was going. this was his first child and he has never experienced a loss before and he has cried just as many tears as me. I just feel sorry for him and i really wish i could of given him this baby
You are definately not overeacting at all M2C, not at all, I just can't believe that your DP's mother could be so insensitive and so unlike a mother. Geez I just want to get hold of her and shake some sense into her - I am so mad that a mother could actually act like that and say something like that. I hope that your DP does get a chance to voice his opinion.
I wish that I lived closer to you, so that I could visit and help you through this, give you some comfort and support. Thinking of you all
hi mummy2chloe,
i too just wanted to send you my love. i've never experienced what you are goin through but I can feel your hurt and pain through your posts.
as for the MIL situation - turn it around. Maybe she is acting like that to show you how lucky you are for your family and DH?? You don't need the extra negativity, DH should just tell her that - only positive, loving people are allowed in your life, especially now. oooh, she has made me cranky too!! you are NOT overreacting.
do just try to focus on getting you better and stuff the b*tch. bbrrrh what an unkind person....
I too just wanted to let you know I think your DP mother was WAY out of line saying something like that and you hav`nt overreacted at all IMO.
I had a missed miscarriage in Nov 07 I also was 9 weeks along, I dont know about others but I just found it so so hard to deal with especialy since there was no physical indication of a loss.
Take all the time you need and when the time is right you will get back out there... dont be hard on yourself, you have been through enough already.
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