You are definately not overeacting at all M2C, not at all, I just can't believe that your DP's mother could be so insensitive and so unlike a mother. Geez I just want to get hold of her and shake some sense into her - I am so mad that a mother could actually act like that and say something like that. I hope that your DP does get a chance to voice his opinion.

I wish that I lived closer to you, so that I could visit and help you through this, give you some comfort and support. Thinking of you all