First Sally it is disgustingly hard. I'm so sorry to hear about what is going on with your family.

Especially the younger years when they are going through all the same stuff a normal threenager goes through (I have a "normal" threenager here who is very frustrating at times) and yet they are that bit more quirky.

Matilda looks at people in the eyes fleetingly. And once she's met them a few times she's more likely to look them in the eyes briefly. Its only ONE of the signs.

Finding the triggers can be so helpful, and adjusting your life. I was resentful at first at the thought that I had to change the order on how I put the cereal into the bowl, but once I just gave up and did it her way life was more peaceful at breakfast, ykwim? She has the pink cup with her black dinner plate and her special cat spoon and fork still. All to keep the peace, I make sure they are washed and ready for her.... I just thought they weren't the battles I wanted to fight. I was fighting battles such as not climbing the 6 foot fence and running away....

TBH TD, even I wouldn't tell you if I suspected Asperger's. I would probably suggest that you get him assessed if you asked what was going on... encourage you to see a behavioural paediatrician.... I remember when someone suggested Autism to me, it was a dagger....

School holidays are pretty sucky around here, added to that my working 11 days straight.... noice. We gave in and got Matilda a membership to Club Penguin so she can plug into the computer for 30 minutes 3 times a day.... she needs some "regular" activity and "routine" so we thought we'd give her something that is the same everyday.