Oh Christy Now I'm crying too.

meow - you have a lot going on at the moment, don't you? DS was just diagnosed three weeks before DD was born, so I know how you feel in that respect. All of a sudden I worried how he was going to take it from a completely different perspective, and it was both better and worse than I expected. I guess that in terms of the move, all you can do is plan to make the transition as smooth as possible, know that there's likely to be meltdowns no matter what you do, get through them as best you can then come in here for tea (or vodka) and sympathy. The food issue would be stressful. Can you take a supply of some of his favourite foods with you? Or find out whether there are equivalents where you are going to be living (although spectrum kids are great at picking 'fakes', so this might not work too well)? I get that with the fussiness thing, so many people think that the 'eat it or don't eat anything' strategy works, but not with spectrum kids, they'll just not eat anything. Fortunately our DS is good with most food, his quirks tend to be texture rather than taste or colour related so I can work around that pretty easily, but when he does go through his rejection phases I nearly tear my hair out, because he's skin and bone.

And oh boy yes, the reports and the language they use can be a real kick in the teeth. And because they are technically worded there's nothing there to soften the blow, is there?

Whilst I'm in here, does anyone else have gut issues with their kids? I think I'm going to have to get E's gut checked out, or look into food intolerances, because his poo is just terrible. He generally poos 3-6 times a day, ranging from normal in texture, to what I describe as butt-vomit. Which is half digested, acidic smelling yeurk. Usually we get one of these a day. We've cut as much acidic food from his diet (tomatoes, kiwi fruit, grapes, he doesn't eat citrus, can't think of anything else), he does eat dairy but mostly yoghurt, he doesn't like milk to drink. I'm starting to worry that we're going to have to go down the GFCF path, poor kid won't have anything left to eat. But he doesn't seem to react specifically to either gluten or casein. It's really got me stumped, and I know that because it's so random, it's not going to be a cut and dried answer. Sometimes it's linked to behaviour, but not always. Dunno?

And Christy, more I wish... I wish this wasn't happening.