hi,

im just really looking for an outlet at the moment and to gain some knowledge on what im looking for and what are obvious signs that im overlooking..

My son has Adhd and has also got signs of autism but dr will not diganose him due to his vocabulary and speech..
He told me my son has signs of High Functioning Autism but he still cant seem to wrap his head around my ds's intelligence and therefore can not be diagnosed with autism.. I just want a full diagnosis to help my ds and also take some weight off my shoulders
Some things he does just so you can tell me what you think:
He constantly is hiding under tables and chairs basically anything he can fit under.
e.g- today he had a sepcialist appt and my son spent the time under his desk (dr's desk)
He acts like he is a baby and always causes a commotion when out in public. drops onto the floor and becomes limp and babbles like a little baby and will yell out silly noises
He is ok on eye contact but will only give eye contact to people he trusts
My son also has adhd so at the same time he is hyperactive its very confusing..
I have to basically tell him 2 days in advance where we are going to try and prevent a episode but usually doesnt matter his always going to do it whether i like it or not
He hates crowds if i take him into a shopping centre he will get frustrated and revert to baby like behaviour
He is extremely sensitive to noise even if my dd cries he covers his ears and even a car door shutting.. This due to ongoing hearing probs since birth but still highly affects him
He will never eat food with out wanting to know what it is all about and smelling it and looking at it
He also gets extremely aggressive if you breach his space boundaries and can not play with anymore than 1 child before he goes off his rocket and i mean extremely violent
so much more but i dont want to go on and on,,
Im just really at a breaking point, I know his only 4 and i shouldnt look into it so much but its that out there it gets pointed out to me.. he has been expelled from pre-school abused at prechool due to his issues by a teacher, i feel like im going to lose my son and never see the real him ever again...
I really just wanna break down and cry cause i just want him to be at peace and happy.. and i know his not... even looking in his eyes i see dispear..