for your own sanity, set some boundaries.

try not to say YES to every request for a visit.

maybe limit visits to ONE per day, at a time that suits you.

be totally selfish, you are no good to anyone all worn out.

you are not at all terrible, you're just under a huge amount of stress on top of neglible sleep

it's tough to take care of your own needs, when you're trying to be polite and grateful for everyone's interest in your bub - but if they really care for you and the bub, they will respect your wishes. If they get huffy, well i don't think they are thinking of anyone but themselves.

Make a list of stuff you think of, that needs to be done, when no-one is there. So if you get asked at a visit, and go blank, you can just say - there's a list on the fridge etc.

Never edning chores like washing dishes, hanging out washing, if you can, ask for those to be done.

my fave help is when people just jump in and do what they see needs doing, i hate having to spell it out - but then again, doing that meant NONE of my visitors actually helped me in practical ways - they all assumed SOMEONE was doing this, but not them.

set boundaries - you are important - you are a mummy now and you need all your strength for yourself and bubs -not to be entertaining visitors, or staying awake when all you want to do is sleep.

put yourself and your baby first - if other people don't get it - too bad.