My doctor thinks DD is abnormal? I'm so worried?!

[Carmen2]

Jac,

I asked her if she could get me into a paed ealier but apparently it doesn't work like this in Canada... She does't have a specific paed to refer me to so I basically have to go to the CHildren's Hospital here to get an apointment... so, long waiting list.

It took a lot of courage to speak up and make things work in difficult times. It's not easy especially I've got a handful with DD. I don't want DH and my arguments to affect DD so we're making the best out of the "arguing" moments.... no matter what happens, not one of us can pick a fight in front of DD! I think this will somewhat help to create a better and less stressful environment for her!

*Men should go through the whole 10 months of pregnancy then giving birth... the hormones act up so bad especially when sleep is deprived! Too bad there's not a placebo pill to give them this experience... if yes, I am sure they would be more understanding!

[Lulu]

Oh yay for you Carmen! Things seem like they are going well, its lovely to hear you and DH working together. It can be sooooo hard after the new baby comes but when you come out the other side, and you both put in the effort not to argue (I am a door slammer myself!) - your relationship will be stronger for it. Well done to you!

Don't worry about tiring us all out - thats what this place is all about, I'm always biatching about one thing or another......

[LimeSlice]

Good on you carmen!! Imso glad you were able to express how you were feeling and it wasnt as difficult as you thought - And if they are too busy to come over then you save yourselves some money too! lol
And I hope you and DH work out your communications - it sure sounds like you are on the right track anyhow
Good luck and keep us posted with the paed's visit

PS: Power to the Crossed eyed chicks!!! mwahahaha

[Carmen2]

Yeah, lulu... glad to know I'm not the only door slammer here! Athough there are still doors left to be slammed, I am telling myself that I should control my anger... Apparently, when I am upset, DD feels tensed too. And because of the bad effects of my temper... I will stop being so silly... instead I could slam doors when she's not around (well, don't think this is happening any time soon so guess I'll have to forget this habit of mine) I'll share with you if I find some other ways of throwing my anger at!

Being a mom is not an easy task because I can't no longer do what I want without thinking the consequences. I enjoy motherhood because it has made me more mature. At the same time, it has given me many lessons.

1 more month till I see the paed! I can't wait till these days go by so I can stop worrying. I'll keep you all updated as soon as I see the paed. It could very well be nothing, but it's best to get it checked out!

LimeSlice, DD's cross eyes seem to get better. They are not so great only when she's staring at an object closely. I am not so worried about this right now because I know that most babies do go through this stage and they might just grow out of it when they learn how to coordinate their eye/hand movements... So, hurray for the cross eyes!

I feel so great being able to express my feelings in BB especially when most of the members are in the same boat (mothers). I think I should make DH read some of the posts, that way, it might give him an insight of motherhood and the things we go through!

[Cricket]

I really think that even the best of men don't understand what it's like to be a mother. I have a wonderful DH, but if I let myself dwell on it, I end up hugely frustrated because he sometimes just DOES NOT SEE when I need help! So I try to focus on the good parts - and sometimes reading through the relationship posts here on BB can make me pretty thankful for what I've got! And, if there is something in particular that I really would like him to do/not do, then I try to find a quiet, non-stressful time to gently talk to him about it.
I'm not telling you to ignore your issues with your DH - just don't let them become bigger than they need to be. I don't know what the trouble exactly is in your case, but don't let it ruin your relationship if it doesn't have to.
And, for what it's worth, WE understand what mothers go through! We'll sympathize with your worries and stresses, and really know what a mother's day is like with little ones.
All the best for your DD's appointments, and you and your DH.

[Carmen2]

Cricket, I think you have made a point here. For whatever things DH and I argue about, I should not let it ruin our 4 years of marriage. TBH, DH is a really good guy with many good qualities but some times, like you mentioned, they just don't see when we really need the help.

I would definitely take you as an example... choose a moment when I am not tense to speak to him what I woud like of him instead of blabbling it out when we are arguing. This will most likely lessen our arguments.

Motherhood is a huge challenge with many rewards, and I will never forget the joy of the whole course. And because of that, I have made myself a promise (I will not dwell on getting angry over little things because I have such a huge reward in front of me... instead I should look at the happy things and be merry so that DD and I will be joyful at the same time instead of poor DD having to look at me with a sour face)!

THank you for being for understanding and supportive. If I feel like I need some more, I will shout here to all you girls!

[Carmen2]

Finally.... the visit at the paed has come and gone. So, it was a long visit. Bear with me with the long details to follow.

When we saw the paed, I mentioned to him several problems....

1-odd sleep behavior
2-fuss at meal/bottle time
3-constant itching
4-cross eye
5-(most recent problem) vomitting

The paed said that her problems are mainly the cause of reflux problem... well, i don't know what to say but she started the vomitting about 1 month ago... no sign of vomitting before that.

So, she was put on Zantac (Ranitidin) for 1 month but visit at the doctor every 3 days or so for checkup. The paed also mentioned that her sleep problem is related to reflux since the food goes back up to her esophagus therefore causing acids backflow creating severe discomfort during sleep time. At the same time, he also have DD take Atarax to get her some sleep and ease her itching related to her eczema.

Well, not until the recalls of the plastic bottles in Canada did I find something rewarding.... DD's eczema is a huge cause of using plastic bottles (so, I highly suggest all mom who experience DS/DD eczema related problem to try glass ones). For DD, her eczema cleared up almost instantly. I feel much better. Occasionally, she still gets a rash here and there but mostly it's caused by her habit of itching during her eczema times.

So far, things have been settling down a bit... we're still getting followups with the paed to see if there's any improvements in her reflux issue which I'm not too worried about. I've been asking myself if I have fed her too much leading her to reflux.... she is almost 8 months and weights 19lbs3oz. I tried to feed her 30ish oz /day plus 2-3 meals (mixture of pureed meat, veggies, fruits, and cereal). How much of food in each group should a 8 month old eat? I'm a little confused because every other doctor is telling me differently... the silly thing is that most of them don't have any kids so I guess they follow whatever the book tells them. Also, how much should a 8 month old drink (formula)?

Oh, I almost forgot to mention about her cross eye issue. Well, she still has a little cross eye from time to time, but I would say it's gotten much better. I think time will solve the issue but if not, I'll get her to see a paed optholmologist just to make sure things are okay and if she needs any glasses given both DH and I wear glasses/contacts.

She's been a little clingy these days... I think it's her teething... well, I guess it's about time. She's been drooling like a bucket every hour, chewing on everything she could grab ahold of if not it's her hands or my fingers!, quite irritable, sucking bottom lip, and making gnagging sounds .... hopefully her teeth will cut out soon!