Good on you carmen!! Imso glad you were able to express how you were feeling and it wasnt as difficult as you thought - And if they are too busy to come over then you save yourselves some money too! lol
And I hope you and DH work out your communications - it sure sounds like you are on the right track anyhow
Good luck and keep us posted with the paed's visit

PS: Power to the Crossed eyed chicks!!! mwahahaha