Rory, you are so right hun. We do have no power over whether or not people like our children.
However, what we do have power over is how we bring them up. If we bring our children up to be respectful, well manner and generally just nice people, then others will like them.

I breastfed both Joel and Brandon until they were 9 months old. So no difference there. They are both different people though. While Joel looks very much like my side of the family, is very out going, sporty and has a huge circle of friends. Brandon on the other hand looks so much like his father. His temperament is like his dad's, he would prefer to be home on the computer than out playing a game of footy. Both of my big boys are gorgeous to me of course, Yet it is Joel that get's the compliments. Brandon is just the sweeter boy, more affectionate.

Noah and Tehya are again different children, and as such also need to be treated accordingly. I don't think you can truelly treat them the same or equally all of the time as what works with one child won't always work with the other. YKWIM ?

I notice this alot in my DP and it p's me off to no end. He is very hands on and has spolit Noah from day 1, Noah could say Daddy will you jump and daddy will say sure Noah, how high and do you want backflips with that ? Of course not literally. He still does way too much for Noah in my eyes. While he see's it as being a loving dad (which he is) he is making Noah more dependant on him and less independant.

Tehya on the other hand is a very independant and strong headed little girl. Now DP does very little for her in the way of helping her out as she is "capable" sure she is, she actually wants to do things for herself. She will do well in this world, I can see that now. Just so long as she can curb her temper. DP get's easily angered with Tehya, he expects so much from her. And she is not yet 3. Why, because she can do it. And Noah will just sit back and let others do it for him.

Hmm think I went a little over board there. But can you see what I was getting at. Try as hard as we might we will never be able to treat our kids equally. We will however always love them just the same.