I know what you mean Rory, but like everyone says, each child is going to have their own experiences, their own personality etc etc.

I'm probably not feeling it as much as you, coz we have a boy & a girl, so of course their lives will be completely different. I'd probably feel a little similar to you tho if we had 2 boys.

I do tho find it funny that people hold off having their next baby coz they don't want to take attention or whatever away from their first. What about the poor second child who will have had a sibling to share attention with from day dot? Their lives are completely different from the time they're born. I always say DD's experience in the womb was even completely different coz with DS we read to him and I talked to him, and even played the piano to him! But poor ol' DD only got to hear me telling DS to 'stop climbing the lounge' 'don't chew on your books' .. you get the picture lol.

I completely agree that the best we can do is give them all the love we can and just sit back and enjoy the ride of where their lives will lead them.

ETA: and on the topic of breastfeeding.. DD will probably never have the boobies all to herself like DS did. So she's learning to share at a much younger age! heh. So their breastfeeding experiences are completely different too. I don't think that sort of thing will have adverse effects on them.

We knew a family with twin boys, and the mother went to great pains to have everything fair for them.. to the point of handing them their knives and forks at the same time so that it was fair!! These boys ended up very competitive with each other. I don't think it's fair to treat them the same.. they're not the same.. even if they're twins.