Trust me, it will pass, but you need to make things as easy as possible on yourself in the mean time.
A cleaner could stay out of private areas and just do the kitchen, etc... would that be a workable compromise? Has your DH ever been left with the kids to fend for himself? He really seems to have unrealistic expectations.
I found the same thing as Arcadia when introducing solids, winding it back a bit helped.
I really hope things improve for you - I truly know how hard it is when you're not getting any rest and nothign seems to work