Yeah, Kmn, I have thought that too. She's mostly ignoring him at this stage but I fear that'll be a different story when he's more interactive and can touch her stuff or do other things to frustrate her. I hope my friend would draw the line there... I HOPE.

MLR - I think she would probably behave ok for me at a sleepover but at this stage my DD is quite wary of her and wouldn't be keen on the idea. I also don't think her DD has the language, insight and self-control to apply the behaviour across the situations, largely just because she is so young but also due to her difficulties with language and impulse control. It would also be very ugly if it went wrong and I din't want to put her or my kids in that situation. Like the thinking outside the square though, sorry to shut it down.