I agree Leash, I had a very medical birth with DD1, induction, forceps, stirrups episiotomy etc yet now nearly 18 years on it means nothing, I rarely think about it. I was young when I had her and probably not the best mother but she has grown up into such a lovely girl/woman that all the hard times were worth it.
I am not sure when I will feel like I am a good mother as it seems to get harder every day but I guess I feel comfortable in my role as a moher at least!