I would say (c) but if there was a sticking point which couldn't be compromised (eg: either it's x or y, and there's no where in between) then (d) for that part, then revert to (c).
At the moment i am thinking e). I am the one who has to be pregnant, labour and birth this child and live with the consequences (physical & mental) of the pregnancy, labour and birth. Why should i (how can i) delegate that decision in any way to someone else? I do worry that going this way may harm our relationship, but i worry more that if i don't listen to my inner self and make decisions that work for me this time, and then something goes wrong that the relation will be hurt even more.
My first birth i was probably b) or d). trying to be a good girl and please everyone else. if everything had gone ok, or if i felt comfortable that the decision was right (even if things hadn't gone ok), i wouldn't even be thinking about it. Because it didn't, i am frustrated with myself for not doing what i wanted.
i'm still digesting some of the comments, and i thank you for responding. Gotta feeling it may be a little while before i have it all worked out in my own head.
I'm somewhere between D and E in my beliefs. I guess I married my husband because he's someone whose opinion I value so I would always take it into consideration. I think he would vote D, but perhaps C because he thinks he "should" to show he's interested and involved. Truthfully though he always believed it was my decision and he said he trusted me and my knowledge of birth options to choose the best choice.
When it came to making the decision I used him as a sounding board but I didn't make the best choice first time around (talked myself out of a home birth and went to a birth centre). Second time around I started to do the same thing and he stepped up a bit more that time and talked me into the home birth (well, mainly he told me I needed to take money out of the equation and choose the option I most wanted).
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