I felt very "gipped" that I didn't get my VBAC with DS2. I effectively wasn't really given a choice though. I was 8 days "overdue" according to their ultrasound dates (and on due date according to my LMP) when I started getting the typical signs of bad pre-eclampsia (frontal lobe headache, liver pain, shooting stars in my eyes). I was given an internal to see whether I was dilated at all enough to have my waters broken. The (I'm not being racist, just factual) tiny Asian registrar with tiny tiny hands couldn't even FIND my cervix, in fact she told me I'd have to wait until she found a doctor with bigger hands! When she did, I had an internal, the results of which were - your cervix is so high and closed I can't even get a fingertip in there, so no chance of ARM. In other words, no chance of "induction".

My "choice" was to have a c/s the next day, or to wait (with daily monitoring) up to another week to see what happened. My XH didn't even look at me - he said to the doctors "we'll have it tomorrow, that's more convenient for my work". Mind you, his work had been very flexible with time off etc so I don't see why it would have been a problem to wait. Further, this was the ONLY time that XH had come to any of my appointments, and then he gets to make the decision?

Let's just say that next time, if there is a next time, I will be EMPOWERED to make any decision that I want made - not for the convenience of the medical staff or my other half.

I still feel very angry at XH for doing what he did. I honestly feel I had absolutely no choice in the matter at all, and that now I've had 2 c/s (both with pre-eclampsia) my chances of having a VBA2C with p/e are practically nil. He took away my only chance for a natural birth and I can't seem to forgive him for that.

Sorry for the vent!