Wow, I had no idea women who elected for a c-section were bullied by other women, (especially since cs are increasingly common).

I am at the other end of the scale (wanting a home birth) so I have some idea of the types of stuff 'concerned' people carry on with (such as "do you know anything about birth?" which one MAN said to me!)

As many other wise BBers have posted - you can only do what is right for you - and vital to that decision is both research and instinct (and you seem to be using both!)

I have also been following some of your posts, so my only advice would be to confront some of those fears you were having about a vaginal birth (I don't mean so you can have one), but rather, fears often help us see something we didn't know about ourselves...perhaps you need some re-assurance about the capabilities of your body, or some positive affirmations about what you can achieve.

I agree you shouldn't try for a vaginal birth to prove something, (or out of pride), but you deserve to feel good about your body and its amazing ability to perform miracles (hello, you're growing a baby!)

Go for your CS, and feel empowered in doing so, just don't ignore any underlying anxieties...they always seem to come back again....and again...and again!