Thanks skeetaboat - I would love some help nutting this out as it's playing on my mind. I guses my thoughts are these:

1. My absolute priority besides having a healthy baby is choosing an option that will lead to the best recovery for my pelvis. Unfortunately, no-one can tell me what that is. As I said, the Pelvic Instability Association usually advocates a VB because we all know that a VB usually means a shorter recovery. However, they do also say that for some women whose condition is severe that a caesar may be advisable. Either way, no-one can tell me how long it will take to recover.

2. I don't honestly think that there is anything that could make me relax during a VB except if I have a miraculous recovery between now and the birth and I can find a position that I can comfortably birth in!

3. However, my caregivers, seem to be pushing me to try for a VB. But these are the SAME caregivers that told me I would recover soon after the last birth. They were wrong, so why would I trust them?