Emma1979 - I am sorry to hear about your VBAC experience. This is a great point that birth choices are exactly that - individual choices!

I've said it so many times before, but if the choice is informed AND right for your situation, then you need to make the decision and not feel guilt.

I think the original post's meaning was those that have to have or choose to have a c-section shouldn't carry guilt........one thing I was always made to believe and still do is that NO ONE can make you feel anything! You dictate your feelings on things.

You do what is right for you so long as you have your facts - and if a natural birth advocate is posting about why c-sections or other interventions are wrong for them, or posting about their fantastic natural birth - then that's them expressing their opinion and not personally attacking other birth choices.

I can't honestly say that I have come across a post yet on BB where someone has outwardly criticized someone else's birth choice - some strong opinions yes - but not criticism.

I've got a friend who is having an elective c-section in 10 days with her first baby. She asked me today if I thought she was "copping out". I told her it didn't matter what I thought, it mattered that she got all the facts in making her decision, pros/cons etc and most importantly in the end she feels like she had the birth experience she wanted.