11 yr old argues with everything i say.

[KimB]

We are still having the arguments and now it has turned violent. DS1 now throws everything, hits his brother and tonight has hit DF but said he didn't mean it. Now DF and DS have a problem anyway as they have nothing in common. DS is very active and DF is a computer nerd. I am not sure what to do now. Do I make him live with his dad and stepmum?? Any one have any ideas on what to do cause we have run out of tactics

[Inertia]

Honestly wish I had a better idea, but I am at a loss on what to do with my two. I feel like an ogre because I am almost always 'on their case' iykwim. But I am not going to let up just because of that. I find yelling at a 1yo to F*** off is completely reprehensible. She is also flinging her around and tossing her on the lounge and it makes my blood boil. I won't have my child acting so damned immoral, let alone risking the health of their little sister!

Wish I could send them to military school or something because both teenagers are rapidly leeching all the joy out of my house with their attitudes. They refuse to accept any responsibility in it either. Angel went feral at my DH one morning for waking her up at 10:30am to go for a drive to QLD that she knew all about the night before. Only we were evil cruel vicious people who were only doing it because we hate her. "Whatever".. the answer to every 'well this is the part where YOU bear responsibility too'.

And she wants us to treat her like a 'grown up'. No dear, we are going to continue to treat you like a teenager, because that is EXACTLY what you are, and EXACTLY how you are acting.

Sorry.. /vent.

Just.. Wish I had an answer.

[JBM]

honey aspen: military school sounds so inviting atm. lol
DS is now 12 and things just get worse everyday. we just had 5 days away without any kids and he started almost strait away !!
actually he just pushed his younger brother into the middle brother because he didn't say please when he asked DS1 to get off his bed. ?????? he makes me so so angry !!!!!
but i am finding that making him go without things has the best results atm. he missed out on an icecream yesterday arvo and was much better behaved so i let him have a spa last night which is a real treat for them to have one alone .

i sometimes don't know what to do with him. he is so aggro all the time, hormones ?, and he is about to start highschool and the fun will really start then.

i wish i had the answers

i know it'll be hard but i'm not expecting any miracles.

good luck to you other guys. you'll need it.