Sorry, I have just skimmed the thread and may have missed the rationale.... but this is what I've gathered:

DH says child must go to school
DH says he will not participate in achieving this.
You can not physically make him go

... so what exactly does your DH expect you to do?


Another question... how's he going academically? Socially? Are there any signs at all that he has trouble focussing, hearing, understanding what's required of him, tolerating noise levels, joining in play - just to name a few of a million little things that could potentially undermine a child's confidence. Sometimes something as simple as needing glasses and therefore not being able to decipher what's written on the board can really make a child feel like they're not managing.

And... does he try and control anything else or is this behaviour specifically around attending school?