Hi girls,

I'm in the need of a little .

I have been with my DP for 3 years and we had 'THE' discussion a while back about when we'd start trying for our first bubba. He definetly wants to have kids - that's not the problem. He wants to wait until we are financially secure :eek: . In my eyes this ain't ever going to happen (not until we are about 60 maybe). I'm not worried about the finances as such as you always make do on what you have. You just adjust. But trying to convince DP of this is like . I know he thinks about having our kids as he always brings up little things and he melts when he sees a little baby or kid in the shops (very cute I must say!).

When I bring it up he usually says that he wants to wait until we have paid more off the mortgage and that we can't live off one wage and that he doesn't want to work OT all the time. I am the biggest budget queen. On a bad month we have about $1000 left over. Our mortgage is a whopping $3200 a month!! But to me, the mortgage is still going to be there in 10 years time. No - we can't live off one wage but my plan would be to go straight back to work after the baby. We have two cars that we both love and are doing up at the moment and those are his babies. In september or february next year I will be made redundant from my current job (I'm very happy!) which is another thing against my quest for the baby! I think that his biggest worry of all is not getting his cars done. (About 2 months ago it was only one car being done up but now there is two). I want the cars done as well but I want a bubba now too. I can't really stand it at the moment. I worry that I'm getting old and that I won't work. DPs comment to that is not to worry - that it will happen straight away. I really don't think he quite understands that it's such a slim chance each month and that so many people have problems.
I really just don't know when he will think that it's a good time. Will it be a good time next year or in 5 years? I'm really at a loss about trying to convince him to just chill a little and not worry so much. To me when you have kids it's not like your life has ended and you can't enjoy yourself and have fun anymore. It's all just the beginning!!

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. DP is very stubborn and he's always right IYKWIM! It seems like all the odds are stacked against me and I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Sorry this is soooooooo long.