I have to say girls that I have had great enjoyment reading all the posts!!
What you all say is so true...I have to say that men are definitely a different species . It's all in the way that you say things. My DP is wonderful and would do anything for me but he's just far too stubborn sometimes. I do find that I have to mention little things to him and he might shoot me down at the start (just as you said Queenie!) but I know that I can always get him to come around eventually. He (and all the other men) need to take in the new piece of information and actually process it. After a few times of bringing up the same thing they get accustomed to hearing about it so then it's not so scary anymore. Even last night I was sitting on the lounge and I said to DP 'Darlin - I've been thinking...(yes...) well you know how I'd like to take you overseas (yes...) well, I thought that when we do we could elope! (Please note that he is one of these people that say - why do I need to go overseas and spend all that money when I can see it on the internet? ) I told him that it will be heaps cheaper and that it is a day for us and not for everyone else. He then asks me - when? I said not right this second but when I get redundant. The first thing he said is - after you have found a new job! The thing is, is that when you start a new job you can't just take holidays. He's such a worry wart. I don't think that he believes me when I tell him that I'll find a job straight away. If worse comes to worst, I temp. No dramas! He's just so worried about me not having a job.
I think my biggest issue is not so much about starting TTC right this second but I said 6 months ago that I would like to come off BCP. Of course he said NO! I am a firm believer in that everything happens for a reason and if I were to fall straight away then that is the way that its supposed to be. If it doesn't happen straight away, it doesn't. But because he thinks that it will happen as soon as we DTD, he gets scared. It's because my stupid mum :mad: told him that I was an accident and that she would fall PG when someone just looks at her!! Good on you mum! So he naturally thinks the same for me.
I'm a bit of a rev head so I want our cars done up, looking spiffy and ready to go like four million miles an hour (you guys would probably not understand this but that is ok). But I kind of think - when will he say its ok to come off the dreaded BCP. I thought that I would bring it up again after the first car was done but as I've said now there is 2. One of which he wants to take to the track..yes I know $$$$$$$$. After they are done up - will there be another project? I think I might have to tell him that I'm going to go off the BCP when it runs out and that's the way it will be. AND then I'll tell him that MY redundancy (hahaha) is our baby fund..no touching it for the cars...I won't be getting a huge payout but it's at least almost 1 years pay. The other thing that worries him is the daycare situation - only because it's so expensive. But i'm sure that we can work around it because everyone else manages.
Ryn - I think that we should stick together. I don't think I'm 'quite' as angry and frustrated as what you seem to be but I do have my moments. Trust me. I think that we all do!! I have been bad and have been a little slack taking the BCP ( like not taking it religiously at the same time, etc). Because I don't care. If a bubba came into our lives we'd both be soooo happy. I've also read it somewhere in BB before that we spend all our younger years trying not to get PG (I was petrified that that would be the worst & that it would ruin my life forever), and then all of a sudden you try to get PG and find that it takes so long. So what is the point of worrying at all!!
. It's all in the way that you say things. My DP is wonderful and would do anything for me but he's just far too stubborn sometimes. I do find that I have to mention little things to him and he might shoot me down at the start (just as you said Queenie!) but I know that I can always get him to come around eventually. He (and all the other men) need to take in the new piece of information and actually process it. After a few times of bringing up the same thing they get accustomed to hearing about it so then it's not so scary anymore. Even last night I was sitting on the lounge and I said to DP 'Darlin - I've been thinking...(yes...) well you know how I'd like to take you overseas (yes...) well, I thought that when we do we could elope! (Please note that he is one of these people that say - why do I need to go overseas and spend all that money when I can see it on the internet?
) I told him that it will be heaps cheaper and that it is a day for us and not for everyone else. He then asks me - when? I said not right this second but when I get redundant. The first thing he said is - after you have found a new job! The thing is, is that when you start a new job you can't just take holidays. He's such a worry wart. I don't think that he believes me when I tell him that I'll find a job straight away. If worse comes to worst, I temp. No dramas! He's just so worried about me not having a job.
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