When something is fuelling our need, we will defend it fiercely, and even get upset at anyone who thinks differently or tries to mess with it.

We're in a society where we focus too much on our pain in doing/changing something, when we should be realising the (long term) pain of NOT doing anything. Look at how it makes you feel. Think of all the other people around you that you could possibly be hurting/changing their experience because of this. Look at how quickly you can make yourself angry and bitter if you think about it or focus on it. Now imagine a life where you never ever feel that ever again... If you can't, you're addicted to your pain/meeting your need.