Does being selfish make you a "terrible" person....

[LionsandBears]

I recommend reading "The Invitation" by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. This stanza is relevant to you:

It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

There is a difference between being self-aware, self-protective and having self-respect or being self-centred. That doesn't make you selfish. It means you are honouring yourself. You dont need to be a martyr to others' needs to be a "good" person. Sometimes saying No is the best thing you can do.

[Miss.B]

I totally agree with L&B, well said

I think it's perfectly OK and normal and acceptable to be selfish sometimes, after all, you've got to look after your own needs and always put yourself first. Gosh, I know what I want to say but can't put it into words perfectly. I know one thing, you are such a beautiful and generous and understanding and level headed person, and very thoughtful and kind. Always put yourself first and foremost hun, it's not a selfish thing to do, it's a necessary thing to do to be the most happiest you can be. Big hugs gorgeous xoxoxox