gorgeous girl.

Something I have learned with age is that sometimes it can be all about me. It can be myturn for a while. Everyone else has had their time, and I am sure they will have another turn. I used to be the people pleaser of my family, the one to sort it all out and be the peace keeper and while in my mind I thought it was making me a great person, it was getting me no where. Everyones lives still went on when I stopped making it all about them and started invested in myself.

I dont think selfish is a good word, I think investing in myself is better. I still like to keep the peace but only if it makes me happy to do it.

Mothers Day is really hard when TTC. Especially after your loss last year. This year it should have been your special day. Your feelings are relevant, should not be dismissed and neither should you be made to feel bad for having them. There are important and make up who you are.

As for your DH making you choose unfortunately men think this is their way of helping. That way he is seen as not putting pressure on you when, frankly, we see it as a cop out.

My mum always says to us girls "If you understand that men and women are completely different, then you will be alright. Its when you assume they think like us, you will run into trouble."

These days I invest in myself constantly and I am alot happier. I dont hurt anyone in doing so (I am not a mean invester) and have great relationships with my family, friends and DH so something must be working.

I hope your feeling a bit better today and can catch up with good girlfriends for a debrief xxx