I totally agree with L&B, well said

I think it's perfectly OK and normal and acceptable to be selfish sometimes, after all, you've got to look after your own needs and always put yourself first. Gosh, I know what I want to say but can't put it into words perfectly. I know one thing, you are such a beautiful and generous and understanding and level headed person, and very thoughtful and kind. Always put yourself first and foremost hun, it's not a selfish thing to do, it's a necessary thing to do to be the most happiest you can be. Big hugs gorgeous xoxoxox