So what you're saying is that it basically takes practice until it becomes your natural state?
I've only recently realised I have never had it for myself or known how to trust or receive it when it was offered from others, so I'm having to reset that programming too, but it's not easy.
Baby steps and being mindful all round, I guess.
I just wish it came more naturally. I want to be kind without first thinking what the kind thing to do would be, you know?