I don't think I read the post you are talking about. But I do think if people pointed all that out to you & you 'got it' then that's a good start in itself, kwim? There are people out there who never get it, even when it is put in front of them.
Having an open mind leads to an open heart.

I think you are on the way anyway. Once you start questioning yourself, you will ask yourself "is there anything else that might be going on here... any other point of view"... you will find yourself putting yourself in other peoples shoes, & after a while it will become automatic