I'm just objecting to such general things being lumped into a list of PA behaviour. Yes it can be PA.. and it's usually something else that makes you realise it is.. such as the conversations had about it.

I'm not assuming I know anything about specific situations.. just don't like the generalisations. We can come in here and read this thread and come away thinking pretty much anything can be called passive aggressive. I've questioned that.. and people have clarified some of their situations by explaining the conversations that have taken place along with it.. which then yes makes it bloomin obvious that it was PA.

But to just say not picking up laundry, being late or whatever is PA in itself I don't agree with

Now I'm going to leave this thread because I'm getting irrationally annoyed. That is not passive aggressive - that's setting boundaries
LOL - I dunno! Just leaving the thread would be setting boundaries. Saying it as a "last word" could be PA :-P But now I'm deliberately assuming intent