You're talking about me in regards to that thread. For the record, I did not try to convince her to do anything, I suggested how she might go about finding out that information and then posted a link to the birth articles on the main BB site that she may have been interested in because they could have offered her an additional perspective. I'm thinking she didn't even bother clicking the link (which appeared as saying Birth articles - give birth with confidence and knowledge) and assumed that I was posting links to info about vaginal births, when in fact it was just a link to ALL articles on birth, because then she attacked me for doing it. It only got worse from there and at no point did I deliberately attack her at all. Clearly I ****ed up and mistakenly thought she may have been interested in reading some non-clinical articles on c/s birth. But as the thread went on, I was also attacked by other members for doing it, when I said that a comment she made could potentially belittle the birth trauma that some of our members had unfortunately experienced, she had another go at me and I never said it in a nasty way at all, but again I was misunderstood and I was the one that came off looking like a *****, when I had done nothing to invite it. But in hindsight I wish that thread had of been different. However I can't take responsibility for how others react to me, I can only take responsibility for how I act in the first place. I can't take that thread back, but I made damn sure that I didn't make the same mistake twice.
In fact, I am nowhere near as vocal as I used to be about some topics. If I saw a thread about induction I would always post a careful and considered reply with the hope that they might think a little more about it, but now I just don't bother because much of the time, the posters just aren't interested in hearing something that may not be what they want to hear, so what is the point? It isn't worth the time I put into doing it if they aren't ready to hear it. I"m not going to risk putting myself on the line just because they have their own set of issues that prevents them from hearing a different viewpoint.
There are some of us who have stronger personalities than others, but does that make us bad people? I'm pretty confident that I would win no popularity contests and am probably perceived as being a cold hearted *****, but my only failing is that I have the strength of my convictions and I will voice them if I have to. And I'm not afraid to tell people to pull their head in if they need to be told and if that is what makes me a bad person, then so be it, burn me at the stake. It may not be the same opinion as other people but it's not supposed to be is it? I always try my best to speak in a way that is respectful to others, even when I don't agree with their view. But I think those qualities is what makes it possible for me to stick around and not take my bat and ball and go home when things get a bit tough. When I was a Mod I copped all sorts of flack and often for no reason other than doing the 'job' I was supposed to do and that's a tough gig to have, but it was OK, I have a thick skin and water rolls right off my back. I loved every minute of being a Mod, but since stepping down, I feel like the shackles have been taken off kwim? It's not like now I have absolute freedom to say what I want now, if anything I'm more cautious because I know that whenever something does get out of hand it causes all sorts of headaches for the Mod team and I respect what they do too much to deliberately be a part of any trouble.
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