Trillian - I don't want to target anyone in particular about anything. That wasn't my intention. But it is hard to be vague and still give examples.

I think it is fine to want to help someone, to offer knowledge or information. But when that person has made it clear that that information or knowledge is not what they are seeking or what they want (which in this case I thought was very clear from the original post) then I think perhaps that should be respected.

Having said that I do recall some of the responses to yourself and others and feel that they were equally unnessecary - two wrongs do not make a right.

That thread seemed pre-destined to be doomed from the get go - simply because of the subject matter and the request. And it is such a shame in my opinion that there do appear to be certain topics that are eternally "off-limits" because a thread cannot exist without it being at some point taken so far off course with no-one being safe from accusation and judgement.

It is not any ONE person or group of people who do this (hence I didn't want to target anyone). And I am certain that some of my posts have been equally unwelcome (I am a huge fan of those [vent] and [advice] heading now used in the punching bag and boo hoo room). I just think it is something we ALL need to be mindful of when responding to any thread.