I think this is where PMing each other respectfully is an absolute must - rather than getting upset and flinging it out on the boards, just PM whoever's upset you and ask them for clarification. What we see as an attack on our choice, they may have intended as something completely different.

And following on from what I said before about it feeling like I'm drowning under the opposite opinions, instead of jumping on a post you don't agree with, it might be nice to continue to read ALL the posts - that way, if its already been sorted out, or others have already said something, it doesn't pour fuel on the fire ITMS. That's something I've found, is that one person can say something and then go offline for a few hours or a day, and when they come back there's 16 posts telling them how wrong and stupid they are. When I've encountered that, I don't PM anyone generally - who would you PM? No-one's given the impression they would listen!

Ah, I'm really tired and sore, this post sounds like I'm grumpy but I'm really not - at least, not at BB or anyone on it I'm basically just saying PM if someone's post has upset you, and take the time to read all the posts in a thread before responding. And by 'you' I mean collective. And by tired and sore I mean, goodnight everyone