I enjoy cake, I enjoy icing. I enjoy both together. I did not get married to only eat cake and my DH is the same.

Sex is one of those weird things in a relationship. When it is going well, it seems like a small part of the relationship. When it is going bad, it seems like it is everything. I don't see sex and the relationship as being separate, like cake and icing. It is more like the flour or the eggs of a cake, an integral part of the structure. With no eggs, you don't get beautiful sponge cake