Well I disagree with the OP. Because after my first VB I was so vaginally damaged and traumatised that it was well past the 6 month mark before there was any jiggy getting on and at least another 6 months after that before it was a pain-free experience for me. Should I have "sucked that up"???

OK, so not the norm for VBs but if my DH had been entitled or insisted on his conjugal rights during that time it would've tipped me right over the edge.
MD, the OP admitted that there are times that it isn't possible due to damage from birth.