Squid - I honestly don't know my worth any more. I'm full of self doubt... I've been doing a particular activity for a relatively short period of time which has slowly increased my confidence... which is the only reason I'm even able to contemplate leaving DH... but I couldn't tell you what I'm worth. I don't feel like I'm worth that much. I "know" I'm worth more than this... but I can't really accept that. DD, however, she is worth everything. But I feel like she deserves more than I could give her as a single parent - and I'm not talking about material things.

This is tearing me apart, breaking my heart, and doing my head in. This is the most difficult decision I have ever had to make.
I lost myself completely in my first marriage it was aweful, when i was around friends i was a different like living in two worlds but deep inside i was hurting like i needed to escape. I did tho talk with my ex then many a times and like you asked for counseling but he sorta kept saying its all my problem. I need the counseling not him. Strangely enough he was in shock when i left.

It took some time for myself worth to grow and it was tough. The kids missed him heaps even tho we shared the care. Seeing the kids hurt made it so difficult for me but now years on i see now that i did honestly make the right desition. the kids are happier than before. I am happier and im setting a better example for dd that women are equal and that we have choices.