No that's OK, I knew you dodn't want to discuss that aspect I was just explaining it from a forum POV kwim?

I do see what you mean though and I think where the lines get blurred is when people assume support = agreeing with what you are doing 100% whereas it's probably not so much support you are looking for, but respect, respect for the choice you have made just as you would respect the choices made by someone else. because it is entirely possible to support someone fully even if you don't agree with what they are doing because it may not be something you would do yourself. So I guess it would be more supportive if someone didn't say "OMG you're going to permanently damage your baby by doing that" when they find out how you feed your baby, even if that's what they think because when someone is struggling either way, it's not up to anyone else to spout their own opinions unless it's asked for.