Tan- I dont think anyone was having a go at you, or judging the decisions you have made- just responding to questions and comments posted by you. You asked for peoples opinions, and my opinion is that people really hve to worry less about what other people think- no body has the right answer for you, you are the only one that holds that.

Hindsight is a fine thing, and the reality is we can't take back the past merley learn from it and move on. At the time you were BF L and the time you were tandem feeding, you believed that you were doing the best thing for your boys.

Real friends support you no matter what decisions you make in life-whether it is the same as their decisions or not, that is what makes them real friends, everyone else is just a bystander on your journey through lifes joys and bumps.

Isn't seeing happy healthy boys, feeling happy and healthier in yourself for the decisions you have made reward enough?

I really value and respect you as a friend, and I am not trying to have a go at you, just want you to see that sometimes we have to be our own cheer squad, and pat ourselves on the back- everyone else is to busy living their own lives.