Don't get me wrong, I hate hearing kids cry too.. But I have to trust the parents know the difference between the cries (genuinely upset, or just a loud grizzle). I know my DD plays on me to get her own way. But I have learnt to look for tears to know whether she is really upset, or just playing me

One thing that my husband keeps telling me is that it is hard for a young child to fake happiness, so if they are generally happy most of the time, then it might not be 'ideal', but probably isn't hurting him either.