Hey,

I just wanted to chime in with the opinion of someone who uses cio, (I never heard that expression before today!) I was totally against it when I read about it but at 10 months I was still breastfeeding my baby girl to sleep which was fine but she couldn't get to sleep any other way so whenever she woke up in the night I had to feed her down again. At 10 months I was up more than when she was a newborn, patting or rocking her to sleep wasn't an option because she loves attention and would stay awake for the pats so after much research we tried controlled comforting. It worked the first night, she slept throught the night and has never looked back. When we put her to bed now she's out with in 5 minutes, she gets enough sleep and I get enough sleep (sort of).

I totally get that this wouldn't work for you but it was right for us, if someone tried to tell me it was wrong or harmful to my baby I'd be pretty unimpressed. You are the expert on your kids and this woman is the expert on her little man. I don't want to have a go at you but I think we really need to stop judging each others parenting. We all have two things in common, we adore our kids and none of us are perfect.

You sound lovely and thoughtful and well meaning and I am jealous you have such a great Mothers group!