thanks scooby
my fs is 200klm away and he is the closest, my cycle i was only on clomid and had i pregnyl shot before getting iui done, and i have been on pess since i had iui done which was 2wks ago today and all he said was if af arrives stop using pessaries or if i get bfp come get more pess as i would of needed to be on them for 11wks and that was it, he never mentioned bt or follow ups or anything but then he has never done that and i have done 4 attempts of iui with him?? might pm you in a few weeks about homoeopathics just need to be in a better frame of mind first before i start thinking about ttc again, might wait till after christmas then get back into things, thanks so much for caring and being so sweet

slyder i know what you mean about having a big plan and then things get in the way, we are truely struggleing week by week, so any sort of money i could put away would most likely be used on dd then ttc, as its not often we get to just go buy something for the sake of it, so when we do get $50 here or there we usually try and do something together with like a litte outting for the day iukwim. seeing a smile on dd face is worth more then another failed cycle, we struggle to pay for the iui's we have had done, and i feel so bad for spending that money and then have nothing to show for it, can you just imagine the guilt i would feel if we done ivf and failed, iui's cost a few hundred and i feel so bad, where as ivf is a few thousand i dont think i could handle it. maybe in a few yrs when we are better of financially i will think differently but at the moment cos we are living pay check to pay check its just a little hard to swallow knowing there is so much money involved

thanks again to you both for replying its nice to know that you guys are here